I heard something on the radio a few weeks back as I was driving. I caught only a brief statement made on this program but it went something like this…
Fathers are the primary male role model in a girl’s life and influence their daughters in profound ways, from how they see themselves to what they come to expect from men and the world at large. Often in adolescence, when the father has been absent, either from the home entirely or through poor communication and lack of affection, the daughter seeks out this missing piece of her life from another male. Ultimately as an adult, her future husband will very likely reflect her dad’s characteristics, regardless of his positive or negative effect on her life.
It is sobering to consider the effect my life has on the lives of both my kids. I want to represent to Pearl and Isaiah the richness, honor, and value of being a real man. I want to be a godly influence on their lives and reflect my Saviour. I want them to see in me what it means to be a godly husband and father. I know I fail them in a thousand ways but even in my failures I want them to see a man that is open about his mistakes and tries to correct them according to the scriptures. I want Pearl to be able to pattern her choice of a future husband after the first love in her life, her daddy.
“Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it." Proverbs 22:6